The holiday season is known as a time for gratefulness, love, and joy, but let’s keep it real: Your glow-up doesn’t always get a round of applause. Sometimes, the more happiness and calmness you display, the more it angers those who watch you. This isn’t your problem. It’s theirs. But let’s unpack why your self-confidence, especially during the holidays, might cause some people to become hot-headed and bothered by your character.
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1. You’re Breaking The Mold They Put You In
People love to gossip badly about who you used to be or how they perceive you. Maybe they remember the “old you” who was not at her best, avoided confrontation or lived for their validation. When you show up at holiday gatherings radiating confidence, wearing that nice outfit, or exuding peace despite life’s challenges, it disrupts their narrative.
They may suddenly feel uncomfortable because your growth reminds them of their stagnation. Your transformation is intimidating, but don’t let that dim your light. You’re not obligated to crumble back into the version of yourself they’re comfortable with.
2. You’re Setting Boundaries Like A Boss
Poke your chest out and be a woman who says “no” without apology, especially during a season when everyone expects you to overextend yourself. Whether it’s declining a last-minute favor, choosing to not participate in Secret Santa, or refusing to entertain gossip, your boundaries can offend those who’ve benefited from your lack of them in the past.
This holiday season, remember: your time, energy, and peace are precious gifts you don’t owe to anyone. You’re not selfish for prioritizing yourself! You’re much better. Let them call you whatever they choose; their opinion doesn’t pay your bills or make you ish.
3. Your Confidence Makes Insecurity Loud
Own your confidence without questioning. Smile because you know your worth. Wearing confidence like your favorite perfume can highlight others’ insecurities. Maybe it’s the way you’ve been wearing your hair and looking better or the fact that you’re handling single parenthood like a real boss, or maybe it’s how you’re manifesting your dreams with no shame.
Insecure people can mistake your self-love for arrogance or intimidation. They do this because they don’t yet know how to embrace their own truth. But here’s what's real: Your glow-up isn’t an attack on anyone else. Your glow-up is a celebration of you. Don’t stop what you have going on just because someone else feels threatened by your potential to succeed past where they left a benchmark for you to go.
A Holiday Reminder for the Bold and Confident
This Blogmas season, I want to challenge you to allow your confidence to be a gift. If your self-assurance offends people, that will not be your burden to carry. You’ve worked hard to be the woman you are today. There is no amount of gossip, passive-aggressive comments, or awkward silences that should make you feel otherwise.
Continue to stay true to you, sip your holiday drink with grace, and strut into every room like you belong there. And if your confidence shakes the table, let it be. You’re not here to make everyone and their acquaintances comfortable; you are here to thrive.
What are some ways you’ve embraced your confidence this season? Share in the comments below.
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