I
found myself just undergoing depression early last year. I felt like at
24 years old I was not accomplishing as much as I planned to set out to
do. I was comparing my journey through life to different women.
I compared my talents to a couple women where
best-selling authors whose ‘pen game’ I deeply admired. Then I found
myself comparing myself to women who I even subscribed to on YouTube.
I
can truly say that I am not ashamed to admit that I was and still at
times can be my own biggest critic. I have struggled with I’m going to
call the ‘comparison syndrome’ for most of all my life.
This
year I wrote these 5 damn good reasons to stop comparing MY life to
other people’s. I thought that sharing my reasons with you and all my
other readers. I strongly believe that my list may be able
to help someone else.
During this day and age with social media really
is a place a lot of people go to find their selves comparing and even
becoming jealous of someone else's life. I could keep going on and on,
but let’s dive right into this blog post.
1. You need to validate your self-worth.
There
are many ways to validate your self-worth. According to Psychology
Today, Validating yourself will help you accept and better understand
yourself, which leads to a stronger identity and better skills at managing intense emotions. Self-validation helps you find wisdom.
I love to give myself pep-talks, pray, and even vent by writing out my
current feelings and thoughts on paper. Self-Validation starts with you.
If you feel like your life suck, then you must discover ways to better
yourself physically and mentally.
You can not be walking around faking a
smile on the outside with nice clothes, shoes, etc. and feeling like
your back is up against a wall on the inside. It just isn’t healthy, and
it is self-damming overall. Validate your self-worth today and stop
making excuses.
2. Create realistic short-term goals and stick to them.
There’s
a reason the brain has labeled a “random thought generator.” The
average brain can possibly to generate up to 50,000 thoughts per day!
Within those many 50,000 thoughts, it is best to have your short-term
goals on your mind too.
Quite as it’s sometimes kept the secret to
success is hidden within your daily routine. So, while this girl and
that girl are accomplishing their dreams and you are just sitting back
watching grabbing more popcorn, you damn sure could be getting your life
together and staying busy by focusing on ‘bettering you.’
3. Discover the real reason(s) behind why you are comparing.
Before
you find yourself comparing yourself to another woman, use it as an
opportunity to look inward and honestly confront what you may be
avoiding. There is truly a deep message behind your self-sabotaging ways
with comparing yourself to someone else. Where does it all stem from?
Could you truly depress with the life that you are living or is it
something else?
4. Focus on YOURSELF.
In
one of my previous blog posts, I talk about how you must be your own damn
cheerleader. Girl, if the next woman was always checking for you then
she would have by now become your keeper.
You must focus on yourself.
Your goals, life, up’s, and down’s all belong to you. On social media,
people can edit out any and everything that does not make them look
good. You can not base your life or mindset on another woman’s.
What’s
for her is for her and what’s for you is for you! Focus on leveling up
in this life and brush all those thoughts of comparison off.
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